Set Reasonable Limits
Make sure that your child is able to do what you expect. For example, most 4 year olds can wait quietly, but not for very long. Be consistent in what you expect. Give brief reasons for saying “No.”
Tell your child clearly what you want her to do. “Remember to say please when you ask for a snack” is better than “Don’t be rude.” Also, criticize the behavior, not the child. “Do not throw the ball in the house. You could break something” is better than “You are always bad!”
When your child is old enough, make the rules and decide together what will happen if she breaks them. Make sure the consequences are reasonable.